Start by Watching My Video on Gaining an Iron Will

 

Looking to be calm in all situations and not swayed by emotion with an iron will is a powerful thing to achieve.

 

Realizing the Need for an Iron Will

 

First off, realizing that you need to do this is a BIG step. Many people are in denial about themselves and if you are being honest with yourself and opening up about needing to strengthen your will, you are one step further to gaining an iron will.

 

We all Have Emotions

 

Second, realize that we are all human and have emotions. These emotions are our gauge in situations to let us know what is going on. If someone is being a jerk, our emotions will be stirred to recognize it. If someone compliments us, we become warm and fuzzy inside. We cannot escape our emotions.  Realize that you are going to have a response to what people say, both good and bad, but that your state of happiness should not hinge on either!

 

Accept Other People’s Decisions

 

Gaining emotional stability is possible. You can get to a point where you recognize everyone’s intentions you talk to and remain calm. Part of this is realizing that people are going to make their own decisions. Accepting those decisions, even when we don’t agree with them, is a big step.  Even if you get bottled up in side and feel you have to say something to people who you think are doing harm or making a bad decision, you can stop yourself and accept it.

 

For me, it took constant reminding that I accept people for who they are and I wish everyone well who I come in contact with. The main thing is a constant reminder that I accept the things I cannot change.  In some cases, someone is going to do something so severe and harmful that intervention needs to happen, but this is only in cases where severe physical/emotional harm is a certainty.

 

Seek to Understand Before Being Understood

 

Another thing is to always seek to understand first before seeking to be understood. Listen to people even if you think what they are saying is absolutely ridiculous. And even if you know they are being ridiculous, choose to smile and say, ‘best of luck with that’.  The fact is, that even when someone is spouting nonsense, if you take the time to listen and understand, you will actually realize from that persons point of view, they are making sense.

 

Regardless of your emotional state, you have a choice to not snap back at people and to smile and treat people kindly. This skill becomes easier and you will find yourself not in as many situations where conflict with others is occuring.

 

Avoid Backbiting and Drama

 

Avoid backbiting and entertaining thoughts about those who seek to stir chaos and conflict. This is not worth your time. Recognize people for who they are, but then focus your mind on worthwhile and uplifting thoughts. This is how you can help people and yourself.  Imagine if you spent all your time trying to combat other people and instead used that time to better yourself and accomplish your goals and dreams!

 

With a little faith and making consistent choices to accept the things you cannot change, you will become resilient to the chaos around you and find yourself able to cope with any situation.

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