I recently had an experience where I realized that I had unintentionally upset someone.  I’ve seen this type of situation happen with many people, including myself as I have my own imperfections and weaknesses, and now having it happen to me I would like to share some insight that will hopefully benefit any of you who are going through this.

Get the Facts

The first thing you should do is get the facts.  In my case, something was relayed that I supposedly said.  Whether or not I actually said what was relayed is unknown to me.  I just don’t remember.  But I do know that I would never say anything to intentionally frustrate or upset anyone as it is not in my nature.  And I believe this to be true for many of you reading as well, so be sure to relax and accept that sometimes people are just going to be upset.

In the case of what happened here, this person was told that I said he was doing a pyramid/ponzi scheme with his business.  Knowing me, I would not seriously say this unless I legitimately believe it, and I don’t believe it about this individual.  Perhaps I may have joked about it, or may have said it was structured like a pyramid.

Show Compassion

In my case, I apologized to the person who was upset saying that if I indeed said what he said I said, then I meant no harm and was sorry if any harm came from it.  That’s about as much as you can do.  After that, you’ve said your apologies and should move on.  In my case, I think the person will be upset for a little while, but that is their decision.  Still, at the same time, be compassionate and willing to say you are sorry, even if you don’t believe you did what you are being accused of.  It’s the sensible thing to do.

Move On

Lastly, life is too short and precious to hold grudges and get involved with drama-like events.  Even if you feel bad inside, and you’ve already apologized, move on.  It doesn’t do any good to worry about situations where you’ve upset someone, in most cases.  Continue to do your best each day.  Recognize your own imperfections and others as well, but focus on your strengths.  I know that you can better deal with other people if you follow this simple advice!

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Ah, the passing of time with a TV remote, flipping channels, looking to see what’s on. Before you know it, several hours have passed and you are wondering where the day went. There are many things which each of us can control. There are many things which we cannot control. Thankfully, there is an extensive list of things which we can control

Disclaimer

I am creating a disclaimer first and foremost. There are serious illnesses, both mental and physical, as well as other circumstances that hinder the choices we can make. That being said, I still believe there are things we can do no matter what to control our lives.

Physical Fitness

Yesterday, I finished the P90X program. This is an intense 90 day fitness program, with a healthy eating plan. I saw on TV infomercials for it and decided to give it a try. It’s intense, satisfying, and worthwhile. It’s not easy. Six days a week of working out, stretching, and changing your body. But I believe in myself. And the results have been outstanding. They are a springboard for further physical fitness in my life. Just look at this picture below:

As you can see, I’ve progressed immensley. And sorry, the hair loss and tan skin do not come with P90X. They are a natural result it seems when one wants to show as best as possible physical fitness results. I am just showing this to show that it can be done. I’m a software developer who sits at a computer. And now I’ve achieved completely ripping results.

So What Can You Control?

I don’t want to bore you with long drudgery-like stories. But I want each of you to think for a moment about what you can control. It will likely include some or all of the following:

• What and when you eat
• What you watch on TV – and how much time you watch TV
• What thoughts you allow to go in your head
• How you treat yourself and other people
• How hard you work
• How much you learn and grow each day
• How happy you are
• Your health

Unless I’ve missed something, these are things you cannot generally control:

• The choices of other people
• Global catastrophes
• Time
• Two year olds (any of you have ideas?  I’m listening)

Most of what you cannot control deals with other people and the choices they make.  Beyond that, it is grand scale things.  Just don’t worry about them.  Acknowledge them, and accept them.  Look at the many things you can take care of.  Make progress each day.  My P90X results are that persistent dedication yields great results.  I wanted this short and brief article to give  a pick me up to you reading that you can make progress each and every day!

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