I recently had an experience where I realized that I had unintentionally upset someone. I’ve seen this type of situation happen with many people, including myself as I have my own imperfections and weaknesses, and now having it happen to me I would like to share some insight that will hopefully benefit any of you who are going through this.
Get the Facts
The first thing you should do is get the facts. In my case, something was relayed that I supposedly said. Whether or not I actually said what was relayed is unknown to me. I just don’t remember. But I do know that I would never say anything to intentionally frustrate or upset anyone as it is not in my nature. And I believe this to be true for many of you reading as well, so be sure to relax and accept that sometimes people are just going to be upset.
In the case of what happened here, this person was told that I said he was doing a pyramid/ponzi scheme with his business. Knowing me, I would not seriously say this unless I legitimately believe it, and I don’t believe it about this individual. Perhaps I may have joked about it, or may have said it was structured like a pyramid.
Show Compassion
In my case, I apologized to the person who was upset saying that if I indeed said what he said I said, then I meant no harm and was sorry if any harm came from it. That’s about as much as you can do. After that, you’ve said your apologies and should move on. In my case, I think the person will be upset for a little while, but that is their decision. Still, at the same time, be compassionate and willing to say you are sorry, even if you don’t believe you did what you are being accused of. It’s the sensible thing to do.
Move On
Lastly, life is too short and precious to hold grudges and get involved with drama-like events. Even if you feel bad inside, and you’ve already apologized, move on. It doesn’t do any good to worry about situations where you’ve upset someone, in most cases. Continue to do your best each day. Recognize your own imperfections and others as well, but focus on your strengths. I know that you can better deal with other people if you follow this simple advice!