There may be some of you reading this right now that don’t see any point to life and see life as a waste of time.  You may be depressed and ready to give up on life.  To this end, I seek to offer counsel and guidance for getting more out of life.  I ask that you please read with an open mind what I have to say.  I know that in life, sometimes things can get very difficult and some challenges may seem impossible to overcome.  But I know that no challenge is too difficult to overcome.  Please read on.

 

Life Isn’t Fair

 

Seeing the point in life means looking at the world in which we live.  There are billions of people living in different countries, states/provinces, and cities/towns.  Each of us represent different families, cultures, and environments.  The sum of all this is that there are many different people on this earth with different views on what existence is and what constitutes good, evil, fair, unfair, and everything else.

 

Now knowing that there are many combinations of different types of people living on the earth, we can then see that with so many people, environments, and cultues, that there is a high chance that one or more people are going to do something that is outside the realm of what one or more other people consider to be acceptable.  As such, it is no wonder that life is full of conflict both small and large scale.

 

Therefore, the notion that life is not fair needs some disecting to really understand what it is saying.  First, look at WHY you are saying life is unfair.  This may be for some of the following reasons:

 

• Getting bullied or made fun of at school
• Barely scraping by on a meager income
• Having parents who mistreat and neglect
• Dealing with people who lie
• Seeing others suffer
• My environment makes it just too hard to succeed
• Other people are just ‘lucky’

 

So to say that life isn’t fair means not just saying it.  If you really are wondering if life is fair, or why life is not fair, you MUST be specific as to why it is not fair.  Otherwise you are just sulking and feeling sorry for yourself in a mode of depression.  You can spend some time thinking and pondering on what you see as not fair in life.  This is not hard, anyone can do it!  Once you have a specific list of why you think life isn’t fair, you can then see if you can address/change any of it.

 

Change What you Can, Accept What you Can’t Change

 

Look at your list of things in life that you think are not fair.  Now look at why these things occur.  Let’s take the list from above and come up with some simple reasons.

 

For getting bullied or made fun of at school, first look at yourself.  What can you do?  You can learn self defense techniques to protect yourself.  You can make sure you stay very observant of your environment so you are not stuck in a situation where you can get bullied.  You can seek friends, teachers, or parents.  You can even go to the police if you have to.

 

For scraping by on a meager income, look at yourself.  Are you gaining in knowledge and skill to find something better?  Are you pursuing your own business ideas?  Do you waste time lounging around, watching tv, or doing anything else that does not help you?  You can be very proactive in looking to better your career.  Do not let ANYTHING hinder you.  If you see an opportunity, do not ever say, ‘well I can’t do that because there’s rules/policies/procedures that won’t let me’.  Nonsense!  Be proactive and confident and make your dreams happen.

 

For parents who mistreat and neglect, I will admint, there is not much you can do growing up.  Some parents just flat out neglect their children, from minor neglect to severe neglect where life is threatened.  My advice to you if this is happening is to hold on to live.  Seek the aid of police and other legal authorities if you have to.  If your neglect is simply minor like your parents ignore you, confront them about it.  Make sure there are no distractions, and tell them how you feel.  Maybe they just don’t know they are neglecting you.  Do what you can to turn things around.

 

Dealing with people who lie can be frustrating.  Life seems difficult when there are many who get away with constant lying and there are people who continue to believe them.  Try educating yourself on what people are saying.  Always validate for yourself what someone is saying, no matter how good it sounds.  Take the time to find things out for yourself.  Never believe what someone tells you without first validating it yourself.  This can be through research, seeking the perspective of others, or through meditation.  Then accept people for who they are and move on.  You have more important things to achieve.

 

Seeing others suffer is difficult.  With much suffering in the world, it is easy to ask what the point of life is.  But you can look at yourself and your attitude about it.  You can complain about it and let it get to you, or you can be proactive and take steps to better situations.  Accept that suffering is a part of life until you see nobody suffering for a long period of time, but the reality is, that people are going to suffer.  If you can accept this, you will find more peace within yourself.

 

My environment makes it just too hard to succeed.  You may think that your situation prevents success.  You come from a run down neighborhood, have no friends, have no money, have nothing at all.  You can mope and complain about all of this and look at where it gets you as evidence to the effectiveness of that behavior.  Or you can take extra effort and learn, make things happen, and turn your situations around.  It won’t be easy, but with a little extra effort, over time, you will realize results.

 

Other people are just ‘lucky’.  Yes, some people are lucky.  They win millions in lotteries or from gambling.  You can complain about this, or just accept that some people are lucky.  Look at what complaining about others luck does – nothing!  Try spending your time looking at ways to better yourself and your situation and you will find far better things happening.

 

The point is, there are a number of things you can do to change situations around, and they all start with YOU!  Remember, accept what you can’t change, and WORK HARD to change what you can.

 

Why Does God Let Bad Things Happen?

 

Some believe in a higher power, some do not.  If you don’t see the point in life, chances are you believe that there is nothing beyond living a mortal life on this earth.  There is nothing wrong with believing that once we die here on earth, that everything is over.  However, even with that belief, there is still a time on earth in which we are living.  There are still people and real things happening that require attention.  You can choose to complain about things, or make them better.

 

For someone asking why God lets bad things happen, I ask you to be specific.  What bad things is God letting happen?  And if you believe him responsible, then you have a belief in a higher power.

 

After some time, a list of bad things like this may be created:

 

• Wars
• Famines
• Earthquakes, Hurricanes, Tornadoes and other natural disastors
• People who lie, cheat, steal, and kill
• Corruption in government and in business
• Unfair and uneven distribution of wealth around the world

 

These are some things that people may think God is responsible for.  There are likely many others that people can come up with.  If you are not specific about what the bad things happening are, then I believe you to be just complaining because you likely saw someone starving on tv or in the news, or something like that.  Now, there are some people who witness first hand some of the devastation, destruction, and corruption that occurs in the world, and these people can get very specific.

 

The earth has been around for a while.  Scientists can date the earth back billions of years.  Humans have been on the earth for at least a few thousand years.  That’s many, many billions of people having lived, each one making choices and decisions.  The inter-twining of all these decisions creates situations and events that affect the world, both the people and the environment.  The earth itself also has things that happen on it, related to weather and the structure of the land.  I am no scientist, but I am willing to bet, that the weather, and the movement of land is all related to a pattern that the earth follows in relation to physical laws (like gravity).

 

The present day is the culmination and result of billions and billions of decisions and behavior of people living for thousands of years.  During the week, I leave my house for work.  I decide to eat.  I work on and develop websites.  God does not come down and say, ‘nope, you can’t leave today, you can’t go to work, and you can’t eat’.  There are other things happening beyond this such as wars and calamities.  As one person, I cannot say if God is intervening in any way, or if he is just allowing us the opportunity to make things better.

 

I believe each of our choices goes unhindered by God so that we can learn and grow.  I believe we are allowed to make choices and decisions and to face responsibility for them.  This means that anyone living faces that same law.  As such, with so many decisions and choices going on, there are going to be some bad and some good ones.  Some people will start conflict, others will seek to improve and aid other people.  The reality is that the behavior of people is unhindered by God from what is visible to the average human perception.  I accept this.  I accept that situations are changed through the decisions and efforts of those living on the earth today.

 

I ask those of you asking why God lets bad things happen, that you look at the world we live in.  If you are asking this question, then you must believe in God.  If you do not believe in him, then you have no question to even ask as we’re all just living on an earth with nobody able to intervene except the people on it.  Either way, you can look to yourself and the attitude, decisions, and things you do each and every day.

 

What are You Doing to Get More Out of Life?

 

If all I did in my life was go to work/school, come home and watch tv, stuff my face with potato chips, and constantly talk to other people who didn’t see the point in life, perhaps I would start to feel that there was no point to life.  Or you may be doing any number of things where you just live day to day in a rut.  If you are doing any of these things, you are creating the no point in life for yourself.  If you live day to day without any real desire for anything, then your life will have no point by default.

 

So how do you get to seeing a point in life?  My website, drjerm.com, exists to address this issue.  Try visiting and Discovering Your Destiny and start seeing if there is more to life than what you are currently looking to achieve.  I know that with just the desire to get more out of life, that you will get on a path to experiencing better things in life.

   

Life Has Challenges… and Choices

 

One of the most interesting things I’ve found in my life as I’ve sought to get more out of it and make things happen is that life does not get easier.  More challenges present themselves to be overcome.  I wonder if the fear of having to deal with more than just a routine is what keeps people from trying new and interesting things?  Either way, whoever you are, life is going to present challenges.

 

Whatever the challenge, a choice can be made to complain, mope, and waste time.  This will keep the challenge there and maybe even increase it.  It is a natural reaction to complain whenever something does not match your ideal picture of it.  Knowing this, you can now make a choice to not complain.

 

The next time you are in a situation where you feel like complaining, instead look at your other options.  You can take the time to help the situation by assisting whoever is responsible for the situation.  At the very least, you can change your mind set and be thankful for what you have and accepting of the choices of others.  This will give you an iron will and inner peace that will provide immense benefit as you continue on in life.

 

Examples of People Getting More Out of Life

 

I’ve compiled a list of people that are worth investigation that are getting much out of life.  These people have challenges they face for sure in their lives.  Please read carefully their stories.  I know that in life, we get out of it what we choose to.  It is that simple.  With a little effort and faith, you can see the point in life.

• Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson
• Steve Nash
• Bill Gates
• Paul Potts
• Nick Vujicic

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Stop Procrastinating – Tips To Be Proactive

 

Procrastination is something that is a common issue people deal with across the globe, and if you are having trouble with procrastination, you are not alone.  It is even something I have to deal with as I seek to do the things I am doing.  It’s an area that needs addressing, so let me share some information about procrastination and what you can do to be proactive.

 

1. Recognize that you are procrastinating, this is a very important step.  Doing so means you are not in denial, you are recognizing a problem, and you are prepared to overcome it.  Many people have a hard time even getting to this step, so you’re doing a great job getting to this point.

 

2. For me, procrastination happens when I don’t have any clear idea of what I desire to do in life.  Earlier when I was younger this was a big problem.  As I’ve gotten older, not so much now as I clearly know what I want out of life.  I wish when I was younger, someone would have told me some information that would help me be proactive and stop procrastinating

 

For instance, here are some of my priorities in life right now:

 

• Take care of my wife and 1 year old daughter by having more than enough financial stability
• Continue building up drjerm.com as a useful resource for those seeking guidance and direction
• Build up Media Learner (the company I work for during the day) by developing great software
• Keep my self physically fit by exercising at least 3 times a week
• Eat only those foods which will provide benefit to my body, with an occasional splurge
• Seek inspiring, uplifting, and thought provoking entertainment and media

 

If you are young and in hich school, a proactive list may look like this for you:

 

• Get the most out of high school by putting studies and homework before leisure time (games, tv, partying, etc…)
• Figure out what I am most interested in, passionate about, and good at.  Take this and pursue it as my career
• Build a network of positive relationships with people that excel in the career path I am taking
• Any other worthwhile things you would like to do…

 

Or if you are a bit older, maybe your list for proactive actions might look like this:

 

• Continue my education to gain skills and abilities to better my lifestlye and finances
• Better my marriage by using the drjerm website and applying the information :)
• Seek friends and associates who will build me up and uplift me
• Take the steps to pursue my passion and dreams

 

3. In our early years, through high school and college, most people aren’t thinking too much about the path their life is going to take.  The few that do have a huge advantage as they are at a very young age taking action.  These are the kinds of people that are the movers and shakers of the world, like the creators of Google, MySpace, Facebook, and more.

 

So, the first step for you is to decide that you are not going to procrastinate.   The second step is to then make the hard choices that will prevent procrastination.  This is where successful people are brought out.  Since you are used to procrastinating, a change of habit must be done and it can be a painful process.  Each day you will have things you know you need to do.  You really don’t need any organizational software.  Just notepad or something to write the important things down with.

 

Then allocate time to do those things you know you should be doing.  This must be time free of distractions like tv, friends, and games.  This means telling everyone around you that you are changing to be proactive. 

 

Like I said, this is not an easy thing to do, it’s a change of mind and priority.  But I promise you if you constantly keep in your mind that you are proactive and successful, and then you make time and physically get yourself in the situation to accomplish the task you need to do, that you will become used to doing it.  Then your natural instinct will eventually be a proactive mindset and procrastination will be uncomfortable to you.

 

4. Allocate specific time.  This may be 6:30 am to 7:30 am is homework time.  7:00 pm to 8:00 pm is time for you to work on a website you had an idea for, etc…  The difficult thing that many people face is that to overcome procrastination, some leisurely time must be cut out, such as lounging around, watching tv, playing video games, or hanging out with friends.  You don’t cut those things out completely, but they become secondary to the most important things in life for you to succeed.

 

I know that a consistent effort each day and making time for the most important things will begin to change your mind set of what is most important.  You can do it.  Feel free to browse all the pages of my site and my blog and see what else there may be of assistance for you.  Let your friends/family know they can browse the site and contact me if they are seeking advice.  If you haven’t already, go through my self improvement tutorial and

 

Discover Your Destiny.

 

I know with a little faith and effort that procrastination can be overcome.  Eventually, you will get to the point where procrastinating becomes difficult to do!  You will loathe the idea of putting things off as doing the important things has such value and worth that you will love doing them.

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