I thought of this short poem/excerpt today while at work. Take what meaning from it you will – each person is unique.

 

There is a point in time where every person faces a fork in the road of life. Some are graced with many chances at finding this fork. One turn in the fork continues down to the life as it has always been known. To a life containing frustration, stress, anger, dissapointment, fear, doubt, and emptiness.

 

And if that is the life one has known, why take a chance on any other path? For their is a twisted sense of comfort and accomplishment in continuing on the road in life for things as they have always been. Perhaps the worth of at least knowing that life can at least be as it always has gives a feeling of certainty even if misery remains.

 

But the second path presents itself willingly. At times, it may seem far in the distance, unable to be reached. At other times, it is within arms reach, begging to be trod. The path is unknown to many and contains hidden mysteries which astound. A life containing confidence, calmness, happiness, success, courage, certainty, and fulfillment are contained on this path.

 

And the soul goes through life, and the chance to take the second path remains. And every so often, the second path receives another, and the path gives everything it has to the one taking it, so long as the one taking it gives everything they have. And the fear and doubt that may come to one on the second path is squelched as a voice whispers.

 

“Move forward, do not despair. For doubts, fears, and failure may come. And even if the weather forms a hellish whirlwind tearing you apart, forcing you to live on the streets as a beggar. And even if you are beaten and found naked, and lost everything and everyone you know.”

 

“Or hanging from a cliff, those closest to the traveler scorn and mock the choice of taking the new path, hold on still, for the strength to climb will be found, and the journey on the path will continue, and the iron will gained from the second path surpasses any circumstance. Those not on the path will increase in being confounded, and the growth from the second path will shake the foundations of the earth.”

 

And so it is, standing at the crossroads, the second path is known. And whether it is taken is left to a choice. And the choice will gradually change the life of the one who takes it, and over time, lead to a completely new and glorious journey.

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I just wanted to drop a quick line here. I created a Facebook group and would love to see you join (if you have not already). To visit the page, go here: http://www.facebook.com/pages/DrJerm/96394173113 - see you on Facebook! And as always, you can subscribe to my blog here: http://blog.drjerm.com/register/

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Back around Feburary of 2008, I began to feel within me that there was something more to my life than what I was currently achieving. I began to feel a pull in a different direction. It was slight at first, but has gradually intensified to the point that it is nearly impossible to resist the force with which it is applying to me. DrJerm is one result of this intense tug.

 

For those of you who knew me in my younger years, I was far from being someone motivated to do something extraordinary with their life. I generally walked around with my head down, was very shy, critical of myself, and pessimistic about life to the core. I agonized over my mistakes, worried about upsetting other people, and in general, lived with very low standards of myself.

 

Fortunately I now see otherwise. I now have a wonderful family, well paying job as a web developer for Ancestry.com where I work on a team with some terrific individuals, and am taking the steps to further my life’s purpose. I completed the P90X 90 day fitness program and am amazed – I have ab muscles and a tone body whereas before I had no thought whatsoever about my health.

 

I believe one of my main purposes is to be, simply put, a beacon of light to individuals for guidance in life, and all that goes along with it. Some good advice I am taking is to look at the path of those who are successful in what is seeking to be accomplished. For me two such individuals are:

 

Anthony Robbins: Learn More About Tony Robbins
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer: Learn More About Wayne Dyer

 

I took the liberty to find the two most successful life coaches in the world today and there they are. They each have over 30 years of experience doing what they do. They speak, write, and carry themselves with confidence, complete assuring, and the belief and faith to carry out their life’s work. They are a great example for me to follow and in addition, improve upon as I seek to assist people in their lives.

 

And so this is what I have set out to do. The plan is not quite complete yet. I seek to be an author, have a website, hold workshops and seminars, and do personal coaching and counseling with individuals as well as groups. There is the standard part of me that fears the monumental task this entails. But then there is the new side of me, the powerful side, which knows my limitless talent. Which realizes are deepest most desired thoughts can become reality if we have passion, desire, faith, diligence, and a sound plan following the best people and groups in the world today.

 

I look forward to this journey and the excitement and thrill of helping others to any degree that they will open up and allow. I have living proof. My first step was to transform my physical body – it was ONLY a thought at first. The action was then taken and I am blown away.

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Last year some time, my wife and I purchased a 2009 honda fit car. My wife can tell you when we bought it, she has a terrific memory. The car has been such a great surprise to me in terms of usage and mileage, that the economic savings are worth passing on to all of you who are reading this. My focus is on how I am getting great gas mileage out of the car.

 

The Car

 

The car is equipped with a setting to see the miles per gallon you are getting at any given moment, and also a tally of the current miles per gallon you are getting for the trip you are on. The trip tells you how many miles you have gone for the tank of gas you are on. You generally reset the trip to zero after filling up on gas each time. The area just above the steering wheel, where the speed you are driving at, has an indicator below it showing your trip mileage, your miles per gallon, and your oil life. I generally keep that on my miles per gallon. Currently, I am getting about 47.5 miles per gallon. The fit is known to have this setting be a few miles per gallon higher than what you are actually getting, but even 44.5 miles per gallon isn’t bad at all.

 

The Driving Style

 

Having the miles per gallon meter on all the time has helped me change my driving habits. But before that even I had begun to change my driving style. I make sure to avoid punching the accelerator as much as possible, and I don’t drive very much over the speed limit. I make sure to keep an eye out well ahead of me, so I know when I can just coast, rather than using the accelerator. This has been a boon to the breaks of the car as I do not break as often. But this article is about the economics of the car and your driving style.  When I am coasting down hill (not touching the accelrator), or even on a short decline, the miles per gallon hits 80 +.  80 miles per gallon?  That is huge!

 

Here are a few tips for people who want to get more out of their car:

 

* Do not accelerate hard if you can avoid it.
* Avoid punching the accelerator when you are in heavy traffic. You can get by with coasting most of the time.  In heavy traffic, don’t start, stop, start, stop.  This pattern of punching it, hitting the breaks, and causing whip lash just isn’t healthy.
* Stay around the speed limit. Plan ahead and don’t get in a rush.
* Avoid using air conditioning if at all possible.
* Clean your car, inside and out.
* Stay calm, relaxed, and enjoy your traveling. Give extra time for travel and never be in a rush.

 

These are helpful tips, and I’m sure you can think of many more. Our 2009 Honda Fit gives us the best gas mileage out of any car we’ve ever owned. As I drive each day, I see many people passing others and cruising fast down the highway and city streets. I can’t help but think that if people changed their driving habits and bought more fuel efficient cars, that this would go a long ways towards a better society. I can at least dream!

 

Conclusion

 

The main point of this article is to hopefully stir you to better driving habits and greater fuel efficiency for your car. This will save you money. For me, the 2009 Honda Fit is helping a great deal. We got it for about $17,000 I believe and our monthly payments are about $275. Not too bad. My last tank of gas I filled up having gone 402 miles, and the tank is 10.6 gallons, with the miles per gallon at 44.5. I could have probably driven another 25-30 miles at least on the tank. Proactive driving with as minimal braking and hard accelerating as possible accounts for some of this. I hope that you will take a step to better driving, and if you can afford it, a more economical car.

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Many of you reading this drive at least a few times a week. For me, at the time of writing this, I am working as a software developer on Ancestry.com. I have a 20 minute commute to and from work each day which involves driving on the freeway and in the city (albeit a small city). One of the most bizarre things happened last week while I was driving. I already am very observant of the driving of others around me, and what happened stood out more than most I’ve seen.

 

Entering the freeway

 

Freeways are roads used to drive as quickly as possible to other areas. They are made without stop lights or stop signs, and minimal turns. Generally, you get on a freeway from a city, where there is a road that turns on to it. As you do this, most of the time, there is a stretch of road you drive in that eventually merges with the freeway. This means that the road you are driving on will eventually be part of the freeway, and as such, care must be taken to look for other drivers who could potentially clash with you. And those same drivers must also keep an eye out for people entering the freeway, so as not to cut them off.

 

I was on a freeway with three lanes, driving home. There was a car, preparing to enter the freeway and onto the right lane. There was a car already driving in the right lane, that appeared it would hit the ‘merge’ spot at the same time as the car preparing to enter. All this was happening about 50 to 60 feet in front of me. So I slowed down a little bit as the car already on the freeway was not giving an inch. In the car trying to merge appeared to be a young college male, and he ended up having to drive on the shoulder of the freeway as there was no room for him to get on. I’ve never seen this happen before. He drove on the shoulder of the freeway on the right for a good 15 seconds, before he finally got space to merge in.

 

As such, DrJerm is going to provide you with some tips that will make your driving experience much safer, relaxing, and enjoyable.

 

Relax

 

Realize that you don’t need to zip at a million miles an hour everytime you get in your car and have to go somewhere. It’s ok to relax and enjoy stops at stop signs and red lights. It’s okay if traffic gets a little slow. Just sit back, meditate, and think of things you are going to do. Practice this, and what used to be inconveniences for you while driving will turn into opportunities to think and organize your thoughts.

 

Constantly Survey and Watch Other Cars

 

Driving while watching and anticipating the moves of others has prevented me from rear ending cars, getting side swiped, or getting into dangerous driving situations. Not only that, it has allowed me to be courteous while driving and provide opportunities for other cars to be safer. When I saw that the two cars were going to have a problem with the merge on the freeway, I slowed down, so I was not in the way. Had I just kept going, I would have been right next to the offending car that blocked the merging car, and could have potentially caused an accident.

 

Stay at or Just Above the Speed Limit

 

Driving at, or just above the speed limit ensures that you won’t have a cop with flashing lights startling you while driving. It also means you will have more time to react to situations around you. Avoid the temptation to go more than five miles an hour past the speed limit. Not only is it more safe, it is more gas efficient (if you are driving a gas powered car).

 

Let Others in Front of You

 

It’s okay to let someone in your lane in front of you. Resist the urge to speed up when someone tries to get in your lane. Most people are not trying to get in your lane because they saw your car and deicded that offending you was suddenly their prime objective for driving. No, most people are driving because they are trying to get somewhere. And unfortunately, most people try to as speedily get there as possible. Try enjoying the ride for a change.

 

Keep a Safe Distance in Front of You

 

I keep at least four car length in front of me on the freeway, usually five or six. This means many people will cut in front of me, and that is fine. I just slow down a little and keep driving. When I have to slow down because of an accident or traffic congestion, I don’t have to slam on my breaks. I can hit the breaks, and have plenty of time to slow down or stop. Resist the urge to get as close to people in front of you as possible. Doing this shows impatience, and also greatly increases the risk of hitting them, should the need to stop arise.

 

Please Signal

 

Some people like to drive and change lanes, moving around without any notification that they are doing so. Whether this is because they just don’t care, or for any other reason, this is unsafe. Please use your blinker to indicate you are changing into another lane or turning. Not only is this safe, but it is courteous and just might brighten someone’s day.

 

So Why Does This Matter?

 

This matters because following these, and other safe driving tips, will help you be calmer, more courteous, and more safe as you drive. You will notice that driving is no longer a chore, waiting at a red light isn’t a big deal, and that before you know it, you’ve arrived at your destination!

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I’ve provided some information from other sources labeled as ‘Guest Posts’ and while they do provide information, I realize they do not have the same flare or quality as when I write.  As such, I’ve thought about leadership extensively and would like to expound on it.  Here is a picture of Colonel Robert Gould Shaw.  Shaw is famous for his leading of the 54th Massachusetts, a regiment of African-American soldiers who fought in the Civil War for the Union.

 

The 1989 the movie, ‘Glory’, is an enlightening and inspiring portrayel of Colonel Shaw and his dealings with his men.  Colonel Shaw was the leader of this regiment.  He was in charge.  Watch the movie Glory and see if you can see how Colonel Shaw was a leader.  He did what was right, even if it was unpopular, he was firm, kind when he needed to be, understanding of his weaknesses, and eventually, won the respect of all that were part of the regiment.  Colonel Shaw is a wonderful example of a good leader.  There are many others in history and today that are examples of people with leadership.  There are some main qualities of leadership that I would like to speak on today:

 

Qualities of a good leader

 

A good leader is intelligent, educated, confident, inspiring, selfless, and understanding (among many more other good qualities).  Without these qualities, a person is bereft of the necessary skills which are essential in leading others in an effective manner.

 

Intelligent

 

A good leader must be smart.  They must understand the area in which they are trying to lead.  If owning a business, the leader must be well versed in business operations and able to make intelligent decisions without guessing.  A leader of a basketball team must understand the game of basketball, as well as their own team and the opponents team.  A good leader is able to make sound decisions with positive results.

 

Educated

 

Education is essential for good leadership.  Experience must be part of this education.  If you are working for someone leading a business and they are young, inexperienced, and not quite sure what they are doing, you can bet that they are not cut out to lead that business.  You can tell if someone is educated by asking them questions related to what they are leading.  If they are unable to answer a majority of the questions or even know where to look for the answers, this should tell you that their leadership is questionable in the area they are leading.

 

Confident

 

A good leader is confident in their abilities.  This means the leader is smart and capable.  They may have their doubts like anyone else, but they never let these doubts surface in front of the people they are leading.  They make decisions and stick with them.  A poor leader will be hesitent, and unsure.  Confidence comes from experience, education, and intelligence.  Watch for those who are leading and see how confident they are.

 

Inspiring

 

Being inspiring is crucial for good leadership.  If the people being led do not feel that their leader is worth following, then the leader is next to useless.  Inspiring people can be done in many ways.  A rallying speech, gatherings with those being led where the people’s efforts are rewarded, or other worthwhile events.  Being upfront and honest, but steadfast in goals and objectives is also a way to inspire.  A good leader will spend time with the people he/she is leading.  The leader will ‘be in the trenches’ with those being led.  The people will see this and it is inspiring to see a leader doing the ‘dirty work’ that the followers are doing.

 

Selfless

 

A good leader sacrifices and does more than what is required.  A good leader will spend extra time with those being led making sure they are able to accomplish what it is they are doing in the best possible way.  Larry Bird, a former NBA basketball player was an excellent leader.  He would show up to practice early, leave practice late, and spent much extra time perfecting his game.  Good leaders will be seen often doing this.  If your leaders are never around to be seen, or are not spending the time helping you, you can bet that they are not qualified to lead.

 

Understanding

 

A good leader must understand those being led.  Across the board, people have a multitude of personalities.  A good leader is able to blend these personalities for the best possible result.  Sometimes morale gets low and the leader has to spend time with the people to make sure things are in order.  A good leader knows the personalities of those being led.  The leader can adapt his approach to what people need.  Some people need direct correction and admonishment.  Others require a much more subtle approach.  Good leaders have the power of discernment and are able to handle different types of people.

 

Qualities of followers

 

As a leader has qualities, so does a follower.  When I say follower, what I mean is someone who is not cut out to be a leader.  There are a good many people with wonderful qualities that are excellent followers.  But for purposes of this article, followers are people who are not qualified to lead.  Followers generally do not have the main characteristics required to be a good leader.  They lack in people skills or creativity.  Or they just do not want to shoulder responsibility.

 

Final thoughts

 

Being a good leader requires sacrifice and many good qualities.  Make sure to look for these good qualities in the people who you consider to be leaders.  This can be your teachers, managers, owners of the company you work for, or anyone who is taking a role in leading people.  If you desire to be a leader, first look to refine yourself before you start trying to lead others.

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Hello all, I have some new and exciting things going on in my life. I will be putting in ‘Guest Posts’, which are content from other sources that I am authorized to put here.  This will help you keep up to date with information.  As for the new and exciting things, one of these is a book I am writing that I am very excited about.  Here is an exerpt from the introduction to it:

 

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The storm thundered and the rain poured.  At the edge of a large wall with an iron portcullis, a figure with a dark cloak spoke in a deafening tone.  “You will not disrupt my plans again.  The beasts of this land will make sure no trace of you is ever found!”

 

Many men, armed with very sharp spears marched behind the dark cloaked figure.  They wore light armor and escorted a man, hands tied behind his back, and dressed in rags.  The man kept a composed look on his face, despite his grim circumstance.  He confidently replied to the figure in the dark cloak.  “If you set me free now, I promise that the order will judge you fairly.”

 

Cackling laughs filled the air.  The figure with the dark cloak responded.  “HA! You dare insult me with your pitiful attempts at escape.  Your death will be slow and painful at the hands of these beasts.  Men, rid me of the prisoner!”

 

The man with his hands tied responded, “You cannot say I did not give you a fair chance old friend.  Until our next meeting then.”

 

The man in the dark cloak snickered, “Fool!  Be gone with him, NOW!”.  With that, the men with spears rushed forward, opened up the gate, and kicked the man with his hands tied through.  The gate shut immediately behind him.  The man with his hands tied looked up at the sky, “and so it is, a new season is about to begin.”

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In addition to that, my wife and I are going to be focusing more on our web and design business at http://www.gazuka.com.  I am excited for these opportunities.  When time permits, I will happily be updating my blog and website, and appreciate your feedback.  You can contact me by emailing improvement@drjerm.com.  Thanks!

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It is indeed 1:25… now 1:26 AM in the morning.  I writhed in bed for over an hour with no sleep in sight.  I just have so much going on in my mind about drjerm.com and this blog and what I am trying to achieve as a life coach.  I’m realizing more and more that this is what I am supposed to be doing.  I can’t quite explain it, but it’s as if my stomach is trying to burst out of me.  I can feel it within me, this is what I am supposed to be doing.

 

I am not sure where all of this will take me.  I am truly genuine in wanting to help other people.  I hope I’ve been able to show that with the sheer amount of time invested in this blog and my website at drjerm.com.  I don’t think I would have spent 300 plus hours doing it all if I didn’t have a burning desire for it.  Not only that, I need the life coaching just as much as the next person, so it is helping me a great deal to!

 

I face questions and obstacles with trying to do what it is I now am feeling I was put on this earth to do.  To be a beacon of light for other people.  To help those who are in need.  I may not be superman, able to fly around and save the day, but I do believe I possess the charisma, compassion, and drive to help people make changes in their lives, both about their individual selves, and their situations.

 

Challenges

 

The first challenge obviously is getting enough money from doing life coaching that I don’t have to resort to going to find a job as a developer where most of my time will be taken.  I am lucky to be able to work at home right now.  I work my tail off and hope that can be the way I work.  But I also know that my family comes first.  If I have to, I can go find a job doing website development and programming that will provide insurance for my wonderful wife and support our family.

 

At the same time, I feel I was born to do life coaching.  I feel there are countless people out there who need to hear my voice and read what I write.  I feel that I have the ability to make people laugh, inspire people, and to in general, help people see that they can get more out of life.  Life does not have to be this constant battle where we are pinned, desperately trying to get by.

 

The second challenge is capturing people and having them know this website exists.  This is a challenge.  I am learning more as time goes on, but I really would love it if the whole world knew about my website.  I know there would be a lot of critics, ready to refute everything I have to say.  That is fine, a wonderful thing about this world is that we all can choose what we wish to do.

 

The third challenge is educating myself on how to help people in the right way.  I’ve spent the most of my life career programming websites.  Along the way, I’ve spuradically helped people with their troubles and encouraging them.  The challenge for me is to make sure I have the education and resources available so that when I am coaching someone, I am giving them the best darn coaching they could ever receive.

 

Opportunities

 

I’ve thought about ways that I can make a living doing life coaching.  So far, my blog and website are all free to use and they will continue to be so.  I’ve added my DrJerm’s recommended page to this blog and on my website at drjerm.com, I’ve got self help reviews on products I think are useful.  You can look at these and choose to buy whatever you see from Amazon.com.  That is one way I make money – by getting a small portion as an affiliate with Amazon.  I also make money from the advertisement links on my sites.  This is called Google Adsense.  I get a small portion of the click for that ad, from Google.com.  Please do not click the links unless you see something you are actually interested in.

 

The Amazon products and Google Adsense are nice, but I don’t see them providing the opportunity for me to do this full time for a while.  As such, I’ve got some other ideas that I’d like to throw around.  Some of these my site visitors have given to me.  I would appreciate feedback on them and the potential you might think they have.  They are:

 

• Individual life coaching sessions, one on one for 45 minutes.  These would be done over the phone.  Not sure the pricing on these sessions, but I would want it to be affordable.
• Seminars – this would be kind of like a group gathering where you have dinner with a large group of people at tables and a stage where I and possibly others would speak.  Tickets would be purchased for the event.  This idea actually intrigues me a lot.
• Creating books, guides, and interactive tools.  I like the idea of creating things that people can choose to purchase.  But they would have to be pretty spectacular.  I don’t like the idea of selling an ebook that took just a night to create and talking about it like it’s the new Bible.  I’ve seen people do that – I don’t like it.  I think spending a good while on a few of these things might provide an opportunity to sell something fairly cheap that had enormous value.
• Create a course that people can complete.  Outline various steps and things that need to be done to have a life that can be fulfilling and happy.  Find some way to have this course taught.  Possibly do a 10 day course or something at a resort.  At the end of 10 days, it’s like a boot camp being finished, except you feel great afterwards.
• Speaking – I love to speak publicly.  This was not always so.  I used to be terrified of it!  Now I love it because I know I am reaching out to many people when I do it.  For this, I will just have to figure out how to get lots of people at a certain place where they can all hear my voice.
• Custom Items – I could make the ‘Trident of Transcendence’ from my drjerm website or any number of things.  I like the idea of doing this so that someone can place this item on their mantle and look at it.
• Donations – There is a donate link at the top of my blog.  I never ask for donations.  However, if you feel so inclined because something I did really helped you, feel free to donate.  Every little bit helps!

 

These are just some of the ideas I have.  Obviously, I need my website to get more traffic (traffic meaning people sitting at their computers using it :)).  I believe this will continue to happen over time.  I will continue to add useful information and resources and continue to talk to people about it.  I will make a business card and talk with pride about my site to everyone I come in contact with.  I am not afraid to talk about it, that’s for sure!

 

It’s 1:53 AM now.  I think I am finally tired, which is a good thing.  I look forward to all the challenges I need to overcome to get to where I need to be.  Meeting ‘The Rock’, Dwayne Johnson is one of those challenges that I am tackling.  I also want to make 100 basketball free throws in a row.  I shot at Gold’s Gym the other day and I made 82 in a row!  I am getting closer.  I ended up shooting 99/100.  These kinds of things are mini goals to keep me sharp and focused.  Plus I love basketball.  Anyhow, I am going to sign off now, goodnight!

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I am meeting with an owner of the company I helped start today.  There will be a lot of negotiating, and I’ve outlined a couple pages of what needs to happen for things to work out.  He seems intent on wanting me to be back and having me take a part of my stake in the company I am a part of.  I believe what I see and as such, I’ve got several demands that will need to be met.

 

As I’ve thought about handling the situation with the business I was a part of and the up and down roller coaster of stress, frustration, and deep thought, I realize that there are times in our lives where we have to deal with change, and even when we have a decision, be willing to adapt when the situation calls for it.

 

In my case, I am going to be calm and reasonable as I talk to him today.  I am going to lay out what I want and go from there.  His response will be a big clue to how I can proceed.  For the rest of you reading, there are many things happening in life that play a role in decision making.  My advice is to never think that things are just great.  Always be on the lookout and look for warning signs.

 

Here are some of the areas where handling change and being adaptable are very important:

 

• Being married and handling the change that happens to each spouse over time
• Being able to handle the loss of a job
• Being able to handle children as they grow up and change
• Being able to handle other people and your perceptions of their actions
• Managing your health and lifestyle

 

As life goes on, some of these can slip through the cracks.  Managing health and lifestyle is one I see slip through the cracks quite often.  How do I Know this?  I see many people walking around with big guts and breathing heavy just from walking.  This tells me that health and lifestyle are out the window.

 

What about handling people who offend you or betray you?  For me, this is difficult, but I realize I can’t get bent into a pretzel about it.  Recognize it, but do what is necessary to move forward and make things happen.

 

When you have children, they are going to grow up and change over time.  Be supportive and understanding of their change.  Show them love and support and the changes will not be so difficult that they cannot be overcome.

 

As I am handling the loss of my job, I see others who may face a similar situation.  Do not become complacent at your job and think that everything is fine.  This means gaining new skills, looking for better opportunities, and having the confidence to make it all happen.

 

Finally, in my marriage, my wife and I have changed over time.  We are not the two young crazy kids we were eight years ago when we were dating.  In marriage, you must expect that change will happen.  You must also be considerate, supportive, and show sacrifice for each other, with emphasis on showing support for each other.  As my wife and I have done this, our marriage has improved over time, rather than degrading like so many marriages I see.

 

I know that the winds of change happen to all of us.  Take the time to understand what is going on and be confident and kind enough to deal with the change in the most appropriate manner.  I know that if you are always seeking to better yourself and those around you, that the winds of change will not batter you at all.

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I believe I’ve vented enough about my current situation with my former business associates.  I would like to talk a little bit about reciprocity now and how I will be standing up for myself, and what I believe will ultimately happen to the company that made the poor choice to remove me from employment.

 

First, I will state the law of reciprocity according to drjerm.  This is as follows:

 

“Everything you give in this life with honesty, integrity, and loyalty shall be given back to you at least twice over.  Everything you take away in this life with selfish or mal-intent shall be taken from you at least ten times over.”

 

So what is this saying?  Basically if you give of yourself and treat others properly, you will help them grow and they will become loyal to you and you will reap benefits beyond what you have given.  If you decide to be selfish, inconsiderate of others, or have other agendas that take away from other people, you shall eventually lose much more than what you have taken.

 

Notice I said eventually.  I have no dobut that there are people in this world who are making it big at the unfortunate expense of other people.  Eventually these types of people will get what is coming to them.  It may not be in a year, five years, or even 10 years.  But I believe that eventually, all things come full circle.

 

And so it is with me.  I have had a flame lit under me.  I realize I have hap-hazardly been working on the projects that I know will help me create my legacy in the world today.  I know that I have not used my talents and abilities nearly enough to leave my mark on the world and to inspire and uplift others.

 

I mean, look at me – I am jobless, have a mortgage to pay, and I have a family to take care of.  I’m not afraid, but I am in a tough situation.  And you know what?  Instead of getting a ‘day’ job, I am going to kick myself into another dimension and bring to pass the fulfillment of my talents and abilities.  This road is not going to be easy.  It is going to be difficult.  It will be straining.  It will be worth it.

 

As I do this, I will show that a jobless husband who believes in himself can and will achieve success and beyond.  I will show that the efforts of one man can make a difference.  I hope to inspire all of you who read this and show you the evidence that it can be done.

 

As for exactly what my reciprocity is, it will manifest itself over time, but quickly.  I am dedicating my life to achieving success now and I don’t have all the time in the world.  In fact, I have 3 months as of tommorow.  That’s roughly how long our savings will hold up.  I am outlining a plan of attack for each and every day that I will accomplish.  In three months time, I will have much to report.  Until then, check back every day as I will have something new to share :)

 

As for the company that let me go, the reciprocity to them is the loss of me and my twin brother, two talented developers far and beyond what normal developers can do.  But more than that, the company has lost my many hidden talents and abilities.

 

Wish me luck, I will need it!

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